The Verifiable Truth behind This Thing We All Call Love

What is love? How will you recognize if you are falling in love with someone? Why do we fall in love?

There's no need for you to doubt that love seems convoluted. It's hard to comprehend and you can't directly explicate the secrecy behind it.

Many people deem you should not hunt for love but let love locate you. Some says love is about time. Once the right time comes, love will just be right there like a robber in the dark.

In that case, whether you're a poet, a shrink, a tutor, a computer programmer or whoever you are, you can speak something fruitful about love. I know it's cheesy but it's perhaps the cheesiest thing here on earth everyone wishes to have.

Last night, I was reading this July 1980 edition of Reader's Digest and I found this remarkable editorial about pathology of love written by Stanley L. Englebardt.

"Falling in love resembles what social scientists call imprinting." This statement is according to John Money. He is a professor of medical psychology at John Hopkins Medical School. To him, everyone has this innate element of love buried inside our soul. ".... There already exist within each of us certain standards that reflect our family life, background and, in some cases, ethnic or racial heritage. "

That means, "when you stumble upon a fastidious type of perceptual stimulus- someone who fits these preconceive notions of what you require in a wife or husband- there's a good chance you'll fall in love."

In Money's book entitled Love and Love Sickness: The Science of Sex, Gender Difference and Pair Bonding, he wrote "Falling in love is the experience of establishing a pair bond."

From what I comprehend, Money is trying to tell us that once you fall in love, the experience can be theatrical. Love is a process, you can either experience it unexpectedly (love at first sight) or the whole process is simply slow and gradual.

Money supposed that if you are falling in love, "you are not falling in love with a person per se but with an idealized, subjective reflection that often diverges from the impression the loved ones makes on other people."

This is the reason why you tagged love as blind. Love can be blind but when it is excessive, it can also direct to aggravation, hatred and aggression.

"Under the pressure of inevitable disillusionment, a pair-bond that results from blind love is bound to weaken..." Money mentioned.

Love has psychological and physiological components and in order to fight the weaknesses enveloping it, you need to understand that the top-secret to a successful relationship is complimentary pair bonding.

"It's irrelevant whether the partners are replicas or polar opposites in temperament, interests, achievements or whatever, what counts is that they fulfill each other's projected image."

In verity, romantic love is at its peak during the two to three years of relationship that's why; each one of us must be taught how to alter the level of our expectations as the relationship blooms further.

Expectations can ruin relationship and adds up to your aggravations. The advanced the levels of your expectations are, the bigger chances of having dejection.